Deepavali yesterday marked a year of singledom in my life dictionary, I decided to end my relationship on last year's Deepavali. I know, it's not a big deal to anyone else, but it is to me.
I haven't been single for 1 year, the most was 9 or 10 months, so I finally made it. It does feel like a sense of accomplishment, so yay me!
It does teach me a lot of things, a hell lot of things;
- Loving a person, with all your heart (whole or in pieces) and with everything you have, really is not a guarantee that the person is meant for you, that you will grow old together.
- Love alone, is not enough to make the relationship lasts, I have said this, if love was enough, I would have been married by now.
- If you truly love a person, you would want them to be happy, even if you're not in the picture.
- Being alone, it builds your solidarity, it becomes your solitude. It teaches you to do things on your own. Go to movies by yourself. Eat nice, fancy dinner by yourself. Drink overpriced coffee by yourself. It also makes you more aware of your environment, people watching is a lot of fun.
- That at this point of my life, I can safely say I know what I want, and if I don't get it, of course after taking things into consideration, I walk away. If it doesn't make you happy, walk away.
- Be with someone whom you want to treat well, and if you can't treat them well, let them go, find someone else.
- Friends (who are there through thick and thin, who wipes your snotty nose, who calls you out on your shit) are your most precious commodity, besides your family. Treat both of them well, really well.
- READ BOOKS, it saves your life.
- It doesn't matter how long it takes to move on because you will eventually move on. Embrace the process but don't get carried away, pull yourself out before you become a bitter fossil, stuck in time.
- You are your own best friend, and you are also your own worst enemy. Never believe the things you tell yourself at night, before going to bed.
- A lot of things walk and talk like love, but are not love. Differentiate them.
- And utmost important, love yourself and be grateful for yourself.
It also marked that I really haven't been running for more than 1km for 1 year. Running reminds me of him, it's something we used to do together.
13. Keep your sacred activities to yourself, only share them with the one person
you are confident will be in for the long haul.
you are confident will be in for the long haul.
Such a whirlwind year, an amazing one too.
Here's to another year of solidarity!
