I just figured out that I react better to disappointments today. I was driving in my office basement parking and not all lights were on so I asked the parking attendant about the lights and he told me that it is done to reduce the electricity use (read: BILL). I would have just jumped in and said that it's not a free parking and the tenants paid for the parking so all the lights should be on for safety reasons if this would happen 2 years ago.
But it happened today, so I just said okay, smiled and drove away.
Also yesterday, when I was renewing my passport. I had it done within two hours, it was my lucky day or time because I bumped into a friend and he said he had been waiting since morning and the system went offline for a while but when I got there, the system was back online so my process was a breeze. I was waiting to collect my passport and overheard a couple of people complaining about the waiting time bla bla bla bla and there I was, just sitting, with my book, smiling.
It was not the parking attendant's fault the lights weren't on, it was not the behind-the-desk officers' fault the system was down and the waiting time got longer. The building/parking management and the system were at fault and to just get angry at the wrong people is just wrong and unfair.
It's true you know when people say you can't control other people or the situation, but you can control yourself. And that was what I did. I could get angry but then I would feel bad for days because really it wasn't their fault. To save myself from feeling bad for days, I just control myself nowadays because it makes me have good days, even the best days.
It is really an improvement I am proud I have made.
Also because they said that if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.
This is my religion now.
